What do you think it means to be “equally yolked”
Can men and women be friends?
Should we date outside our faith?
This will obviously be my favourite post because I have the privilege of being in the presence of God with the love of my life. May the Holy Spirit be with you, as it is with us as we write this, may it transform your heart and being the process of reconciliation of your opinions of men and women.
Relationships are a part of the cycle of life and getting to know each other through God. I for one believe in commitment, commitment to one another, commitment to God and commitment to our faith. Today we have a guest, this guest is one of the most important people in my life.
Today I have my partner of many years and today we are partnering to speak on relationships. On how we have experienced each other through the help of God. I pray that the Holy Spirit speaks to you through us, enabling you to have courage in a world so devoid of opposite sex connections that please God.
Can men and women be friends?
C: Yes, they certainly can be!
A vast majority of men view women as a means to an end, someone to marry and physically connect with. Some Christian men are opposed to building friendship with the women out of fear of falling into sin. Both ideologies are contrary to how God requires men to relate with women.
Men and women both play a role in advancing the kingdom so it is important for men to start viewing women through the lens of Christ. In this way, we can develop and cultivate meaningful and Godly friendships. We must allow the Holy Spirit to correct our preconceived notions about women.
So yes. I believe men and women can be friends and should be friends.
“But among the Lord’s people, women are not independent of men, and men are not independent of women.”
1 Corinthians 11:11 NLT
K: First answer is no. My sanctified is yes. From experience I have not particularly enjoyed being friends with men, a few women probably share my sentiments.
I honestly have nothing else to say, but he phrased it beautifully. I feel convicted and I pray God opens my heart to see that it’s an essential part of my faith to grow with men.
Should we date outside our faith?
C: I would answer no if we were to go off the Bible. It is vital that partners spend time in the word and with God.
The assumption is you are dating with the goal of getting married and for some, establishing a family. It is important to raise our children in the faith because God demands it of us.
“And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.”
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 NLT
I'm not suggesting that God cannot transform someone's heart. Nothing is impossible with God. Preferably, it's best to develop a friendship with them and serve them rather than attempting to win them over to Christ through a romantic relationship.
At the risk of sounding cutthroat, if you are a lacklustre Christian, you will be indifferent to being with individuals that do not follow God. Your standards for selecting a partner might be indicative of your current spiritual life. A man or a woman following God will appeal to the follower of God in you.
Why is it that serious you may wonder? With someone who does not believe in God (Jesus Christ to be specific), when conversations of what choice to make or how to behave arise they will not draw from scripture. Their advice is only based on following the heart and how we feel. This is not we should live, we are meant to live according to the word of God, which only is known by those who spend time in it.
The danger is that you open yourself to be led by a person is who is not led by God. You may even experience conflict because you have opposing views on issues.
“Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?”
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 NLT
K: Honestly I say no. Scripture explained it well and so does C. I think we should be wary of dating or marrying non-believers. No shade to unbelievers of course, love you guys.
What does it means to be “equally yoked”
C: It indicates that your beliefs are in alignment. You are equally yoked if your beliefs are consistent on a spiritual, emotional, and mental level.
How do you know if you are equally yoked?Learn about the individual. Everything is revealed with time. As you decide to fully understand a person, their morals, beliefs and values will reveal themselves. Physical/outward appearance in itself is not a credible basis in determining one's level of spirituality.
K: I completely agree with the fact that to know that you are equally yolked you need to know someone.
An error of the Pharisees and Jesus’ contemporaries was that they judged Jesus from the outward perspective. He was from Nazareth, ate with sinners, healed on a Sabbath and they missed the inner workings of the Holy Spirit.
To be equally yoked is not determined by the potential of someone being eventually “yoked”. In the now, who are they? Ladies! Do not fall for potential or who he could eventually be. Who is he now and who does he pray to now.
P.S. Just because he is a Christian man and goes to the church does not mean he is equally yoked.
“For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like.”
James 1:23-24 NLT
He has to be a practicing Christian. Not just going to church out of habit. It’s the Monday to Saturday that count, not the Sunday’s.
Thank you so much for reading today’s post. We enjoyed writing this together as well as talking about it.
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